Honoring defined

As a parent and former teacher, there few realities that I think are more weighty than honor. The first phrase of the Lord's prayer is: "Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name . . ." (Matthew 6:9) which is another way to say, 'May your name be honored.' The fifth commandment is: "Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you" (Ex 20:12). I have found Ted Tripp tremendously helpful in translating this into parenting:

Honoring parents mean to treat them with respect and esteem because of their position of authority. It is honoring them because of their role of authority. If a child is going to honor his parents, it will be a result of two things: 1) The parent must train him to do so. 2) The parent must be honorable in his conduct and demeanor.
It is not easy to train children to honor parents in a culture in which no one is honored. One of the clearest ways to show honor is in the way children speak to their parents. Children must never speak to their parents in imperatives. They must never speak to Mom and Dad as they would speak to a peer. They must be taught to express their thoughts in a manner that shows proper respect. . . .
Do not wait for this training until your children are teenagers. If you do, you will suffer the indignity of their disrespect. Deal with this in the first several years. Respectful teenagers are developed when they are 1, 2, 3, 4, or 5, not at 13, 14, 15, or 16. (If you find yourself confronted with disrespectful teens, get these concepts under your belt and talk with them about how you should have raised them.) (Tripp, Ted. "Shepherding a Child's Heart." Walwallopen, PA: Shepherd Press. 1995. pp132-133)